The number one lesson I’ve learned in the past 5 years of being a full time mural artist and running my own business is that rejection is a sign you are on the right track. As an overachiever all my life, I was used to accomplishing what I set out to do, and I took a failed deal or a flower mural that didn’t happen as a sign that I was doing something wrong. But through the guidance of my mentors and also my own observations, I now see a failed deal as a sign that a) something better is coming and b) the mural project wouldn’t have properly met either my needs or those of my client, ie a win-lose situation. Who wants that? Now I firmly believe that win-win deals are the absolute only way to go, and anything less can and should be met with rejection from either side. Though I was once an overly eager young muralist with a “choose me, I’ll do anything!” mentality, I now find myself either doing the rejecting (something I could never have imagined just a few years ago) or breathing a sigh of relief when the client decides to not go ahead with the project. Read on for how this realization has transformed my floral mural business and my life.
The 1 in 10 Numbers Game
When I was first starting my career as a mural artist in New York, I used to cold email restaurants and small businesses asking them if I could do a mural for a small amount of cash and some services exchange. I found it was a good way to spread my flower murals across Brooklyn and Manhattan and become a recognizable artist. But most of the clients I emailed did not reply and I used to get so discouraged. My friend in real estate told me about the 1 in 10 rule–when making bids on a property, usually only 1 in 10 gets accepted. He said for every rejection you get, you get closer to the one that will accept, because it’s literally just a numbers game.
So if I got nine rejections that week, I’m statistically likely to get a mural project confirmed the next week. I found this to be really true. Most importantly, it helped me reframe the rejections as about my ability or worth as an artist, and see them as purely a mathematical fact. As artists, we put our souls out on our sleeve, so we tend to personalize rejections as about our own skills, but this is not actually true. Instead, I started excitedly collecting rejections, because I knew that each rejection took me closer to the statistic certainty of landing a beautiful floral mural project. Looking back, I can see that approximately 1 in 10 murals did come through in those early days. Wow, math works across all industries!
Transforming the 1 in 10 Numbers Game: From Begging to Bossing
My biggest realization about the 1 in 10 rule came just last year, as I turned it on its head, and I became the one doing the rejecting. What a world-view shift that was, to put myself in the position of power! I started getting a lot of requests for my flower murals across New York City, and for a while I was so happy with the abundance of mural work flooding my way. It had always been my dream to be a full-time artist, and now it seemed that there were more floral mural requests than I could even physically handle. I started hiring assistants, and running around from project to project. However, it was only a matter of time before my physical limitations caught up with me—muscle pain, exhaustion, creative burnout from painting the same flowers again and again as fast as humanly possible. That’s when I remembered the 1 in 10 rule.
I realized I was doing almost 8 out of every 10 mural projects that came my way, just because I was so excited that I was no longer on the receiving end of rejections. But I thought—the statistic is off! If I’m getting 8 out of 10 mural projects, that can only mean one thing—that my prices are too low!! Math never lies. 1 in 10 is the magic goal. So I started aiming to achieve that 1 in 10 rate again, by raising my prices and letting the clients reject me once again, or rather reject my price! My goal was to get less work, not more work! What a complete life hack.
Now, I use the 1 in 10 rule to re-evaluate my business constantly. If too many clients accept my price for mural projects, I know I am undervaluing my worth (very common for female artists). This has revolutionized my world, because it puts me in the seat of power in negotiations, as my goal is not always to actually get the project, but rather to have the project show me if it’s worth it. My results—I get clients that truly love and appreciate my work, and value me as I value myself. I have much more free time between projects, and thus am able to put more creativity and energy into the mural projects that do happen, which then makes me a better artist and my clients even happier than they expected. It’s a pure win-win.
What You Lose Will Appear Again in a Better Form
Along the way, of course, there are heartbreaks, projects lost, and dead periods where I wonder if I am on the wrong track as an artist. But over the long course, five years into my career now, I see that everything plays out as well or better than expected despite the hurdles along the way. I grieved certain lost mural projects, only to have them reappear literally two years later, with a nicer team, a bigger budget, and in a better timing for my schedule. I had a mural get cancelled in a particularly heart wrenching manner, but in that particular situation I actually filed a lawsuit against the client and won! I learned so much about our justice system, my rights as an artist, and had the thrilling experience of representing myself in court, and of course, got paid!
Sometimes I have lost a project that I dreamed of doing because timing or budget did not work out, and then I got a better mural opportunity for the exact same week on very last minute notice. I wouldn’t have been able to do that mural if the other one hadn’t fallen through. But so many of these things we see in hindsight. In the moment, we have to go forward with faith and integrity of heart and craft. The only thing we can control is our own integrity—to show up on time, to complete the mural on time, to honor our side of the agreement to the letter of the law, and to do the best work possible. I have learned if we hold ourselves to these standards consistently, good things always follow.






